11 September 2019

Cuttagee mum one of 15 national peer-to-peer birth trauma volunteers

| Elka Wood
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Reka Upward and her daughter Sadie, 3. Upward is passionate about helping women find the help they need to recover psychologically and physically from a difficult birth. Photo: Nikki Bragg.

What happened when Reka Upward gave birth to her daughter three years ago was “pure bad luck,” Upward says.

The baby curled an arm around her own neck during the long labor and as a result, became stuck, requiring a ventouse extraction and an episiotomy to come into the world.

The results left Upward and her daughter alive, but not unscathed – Upward suffered a stage 3 bladder prolapse, postnatal depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder as a result of her difficult birth, which she has since addressed with a combination of therapy, physio, and medication.

Upward’s experiences of birth and raising an infant under especially stressful conditions have left her with a desire to help others in similar situations and in August last year, she began training to become a peer-to-peer support worker with Australasian Birth Trauma Association (ABTA).

Reka Upward [back row, fourth from left] at the peer-to-peer training day for the Australasian Birth Trauma Association in Sydney in August last year. Photo: Supplied.

The Association reports that about 9,000 women a year develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after birth in Australia, but the condition is under-diagnosed and sometimes confused with postnatal depression.

Psychological damage is sometimes, but not always, associated with physical damage, such as organ prolapse.

And as Upward explains, birth trauma is not always about what happened, but about how someone was treated.

“Informed consent is certainly important,” she says.

The social story around birth trauma is similar to all kinds of trauma and women are often treated much the same way as returning soldiers were – you made it out, now let’s never speak of this again, despite obvious injuries.

“We’re not allowed to mention bad things,” says Upward, “in case it puts women off having babies, but it’s so important to be informed of the risks of all kinds of birth.”

Because birth-related health conditions are often not diagnosed right away, many women suffer in silence for months or even years, not knowing if what they are experiencing is normal, says Upward, who did not seek help until her daughter was six months old.

The damage to mother, baby, and family by that time is done. There is no getting those first months with a new baby back and for this reason alone, Upward hopes that soon all women will be able to speak to a counsellor after birthing, as well as have an examination by a physio.

“All births are different,” says Upward, “and having the chance to talk in detail and debrief is so important. In the right environment, there is no such thing as too much information!”

Reka Upward, picture courtesy of Rachel Heyward of ABTA.

Upward has experienced trauma flashbacks and has had success using EMDR therapy, which is often used with PTSD sufferers.

“Basically, you focus on a specific memory fragment until you can return to that memory and it no longer causes trauma,” explains Upward, who was treated in Narooma.

Upward says that finding a good health care provider is key to good outcomes and urges women to keep looking if they don’t find a good fit.

Jasmin Peterson, of Tathra, suffered a bladder prolapse with her first birth and also encourages women to seek a second and third opinion, especially in regional areas.

“Don’t assume that complications in one birth will result in complications for subsequent births,” Peterson says.

Although Peterson was anxious about creating further damage with her second birth and had a breech baby [the baby was manually turned at 38 weeks], she says that birthing vaginally at full term was “exactly what I needed to recover my confidence” and left her with no further damage.

ABTA’s service may be especially useful for regional parents, who often don’t have ready access to specialists and immediate mental health support when a problem becomes apparent.

“It can be especially hard to find help when you live in a regional area – I relied on a phone service, Perinatal Anxiety And Depression Australia [PANDA], during the weekend I realised I needed help,” says Upward.

ABTA’s free service, which women can access through the ABTA website, is available Monday to Friday, 8 pm to 10 pm AEST. Women can chat for up to half an hour with one of 15 trained peer support mentors, including Upward, who have themselves been affected by a traumatic birth.

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How comforting that you women can all be there to support others who have had a traumatic birth and encourage new mums to be able to talk about it! Its so hard for family and friends to fully understand what has happened, and to know what to do, we need more professionals to step up and help these women heal. All the healing to you all. Rekas’ mum Cathy McGee

Wish this great idea had been around decades ago when I was giving birth to my three children, all posterior labours,all horrific. No debriefing,no counselling,no talking about the actual birth experience. No wonder all three of my children had to be raised by a depressed mother,leaving a legacy of problems for them too. This is a wonderful idea.

Thanks so much for sharing your story and your time to help others Reka, Jasmin and all the other volunteers! I believe it is really important to be honest with friends before they get pregnant, tell them as much as you can so they have a more full view of the whole situation. It’s amazing that we live in a place where we can be educated and choose to have kids and support each other through the challenges and good times.

Nienke Haantjens9:30 pm 22 Jan 19

So glad to know that these volunteers are around and hope that all women are able to speak to a counsellor after giving birth. What a tradgedy that we treat women in this offhand way and expect them to carry on.

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